Make love, not porn (Adult content) | Cindy Gallop
Why Hacker News recommends it
HN people share it as a short, frank talk about porn versus real-life sex expectations.
What it is
Cindy Gallop gives a 4-minute TED2009 talk arguing hardcore pornography has distorted how young men think about sex. She introduces her website MakeLoveNotPorn as a response.
Recommended by 2 HN commenters across 2 different months, 2012 to 2017.
What Hacker News said
Recommends dematio · 2012-11 · on “Hacking my Vagina”
[LINK] is not a hardware but Definitely it's awesome startup to disrupt sex industry. MLNP wants to inspire and stimulate open, healthy conversations about sex and pornography. #realworldsex Cindy on TED [this video]
Recommends TeMPOraL · 2013-01 · on “Did porn warp me forever?”
> Hopefully the kids growing up today realize this. Martial arts - maybe. But if your never had sex and your only education on the topic is porn, then how could you know how it really looks like? And then you have your first, and second, and third time, and you feel a bit disappointed that it didn't feel or look like you expected, and even if you realize that porn is a caricature, you're still left wondering, how much of the difference between porn and real life is because of lack of realism in videos, and how much is because of your deficiencies. It's a real problem and it's sad that the only sexual education kids usually get comes from porn. EDIT There was a TED talk about this topic once,
Cites rootlocus · 2017-08 · on “The Difficulties of Running a Sex-Inspired Startup”
I wouldn't equate porn actors with professional sports players. The large majority of online porn is repetitive, degrading and banal. I believe the quality of sex comes from intimacy and mutual pleasure / respect. The porn industry seems to think quality means harder, faster, longer, whatever. Also, found on the website linked on the article: [this video]